It’s been recently brought to my attention…
So…it’s been recently pointed out to me that I guess I “should” have a boyfriend or husband now. My answer to that is, “why should I ? I’m good on my own. I can take care of myself, I don’t need the complications of a relationship right now in my life.” Well, despite all my efforts to disregard these observations of my love life, or lack there of, I am starting to think that maybe I should.
Here is my question, How do I go about this. I mean, dating these days does not seem as easy as it did a few years ago. I can remember a time when all of my friends had boyfriends, including me. now, it seems like there is an increasingly large amount of very attractive single women walking around this city, wondering like me, how do you get a boyfriend and keep one.
You may be thinking to yourself right now, “thats a ridiculous claim. there are tons of women I know that are in some sort of commited relationship or married” right. well think again buddy. you know, maybe its this city, (I’m talking Los Angeles). Maybe its just here, but lately, I’ve been wondering if this is some sort of epidemic thats sweeping the country? Maybe, if you hadn’t held on to your boyfriend or that you met lets say 4 years ago,it may be to late! Nobody is commiting these days. and what if we missed our chance!… oh no, my left ring finger will never have a pretty diamond on it to show off to my friends and family, and I will never get the chance to wear that beautiful white gown that i’ve been dreaming of since the first time I put that white linen on my head and pretended to be married and that man of my dreams really doesnt exist at all!! YIKES STRIPES!!!!!
Ok, sorry, i freaked out there for a second. But hey, you gotta wonder right?
and p.s. this isn’t a cry for help in the dating department…but if you know anybody…just kidding 
That is an amazing story Rhea. Funny thing is that for women in LA they look at being single is a good thing and a relationship is a bad thing. Maybe because so many women are so selfish like little kids not wanting to share their toys and at the same time have been going for all the wrong guys their whole lives and got shit on and blame relationships and blame men instead of themselves or end up fearing a relationship because they relate that to the negative things they had just been through. Don’t get me wrong I’m not vouching for the men in LA. A lot of them seem to have that mentality of wanting to possess as many “toys” as possible and want the best ones to brag about and once they get them they still aren’t happy or content and keep repeating that “Chase” cycle. Many of them think that the chase is the fun part and getting the ass is the reward. In my eyes I find those kind of people very sad. It’s so shallow and is really weak. I think the relationship itself is the challenge and love is the reward though I think I’m the only person who thinks this now a days. As I get older here I start to have fears that I will never find that someone special in my life and even go through depression because of it. The thoughts of getting old and never having kids which I think is an important part of life like trees with fruits (Imagine if all fruit trees never bared any fruits ever again) I really am starting to think me being a grandparent is definitely not looking good either.
Anyway maybe it’s because so many live their lives for themselves instead of for others. Maybe if they could quit trying to conquer all of our own selfish goals and focus on doing for others could life really start falling into place like it’s suppose to and then maybe they can really find out what it’s like to be truly happy and find that someone special in their lives. I don’t know just maybe this could be the answer to world peace. Do for others as you would do for yourself.
Though I tease you when we’re out I do want you to know that I really like you and I think you are awesome.
Comment by Adrian — April 13, 2008 @ 8:00 pm
This is great. So honest and so real. Impressed!!
Comment by Mr. Kim — April 3, 2009 @ 3:42 pm